Here are some secrets about anger you probably don’t want to hear. We don’t like them either, but we have to grit our teeth and take them to heart because they’re TRUE.
- Expressing your anger does not lessen your anger. It usually increases it. “WHAT? I just want to blow off some steam. Get it off my chest.” It just does not happen that way. A little steam turns into a lot of steam. And steam burns, so the other person – like your husband or wife – steams back. Your anger escalates into all out conflict. Proverbs 30:33 is true. Stirring up anger produces strife.
- How you deal with your anger was learned. Think about it. This is good news, cause you can un-learn and re-learn. Ephesians 4:22-24 actually says you are FREE to develop new ways of handling your anger and that God will give you the POWER to do so.
- No one else is responsible for making you angry. You are! Ouch! This pesky little truth snatches away our right to ever say, “You make me so angry!” The Bible makes it clear that we are never responsible for someone else’s anger, but we are always responsible for our own. (Matthew 5:22, for instance.) When those angry feelings start to churn in our chest, we choose how to respond to them.
Would you like to know more about how to handle anger? Next week’s blog is gonna be a shocker! But will help you a lot.