by Harold and Bette Gillogly Before we leave the subject of Inside vs. Outside Thinkers, we need to offer one more piece of advice. You may be wondering why we have spent so much time on this one subject. Here’s why: through our many years of teaching and counseling couples, we have discovered that most […]
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…So Take Some Friendly Advice
Communication Relationship SkillsIf you read last week’s blog, (and we certainly hope you did!) then you have figured out whether you are an Inside Thinker or an Outside Thinker. Both ways of processing information carry strengths as well as some inherent problems. If you are an Outside Thinker, your spouse, family and friends may sometimes think you […]
Not All Silence Is a weapon
Communication Relationship Skillsby Harold & Bette Gillogly Since we tried last week to rattle the cages of those who use silence as a weapon, though they might not even realize it. It’s only fair that this week we explain how not all silence is a weapon. Some silence is because your spouse simply needs time to think […]
How to Handle the Silent Treatment
Anger Issues CommunicationWhether you are the Silence-er or the Silence-ee, when silence is used as a weapon, everybody gets hurt! Norm Wright once said that more marriages today are dying from silence than from violence. He’s right. Silence can be very flammable and feeds the fires of conflict. Do you use silence to punish your spouse? Whether […]
7 Marriage Tips for Lifelong Lasting Love
Commitment Communication Persevering LoveBelieve your marriage will thrive, and it will. By Sheila Weber Do you remember how you felt when you first met “the one”? It was likely an exciting time as you prepared to embark on a lifetime of love with your soulmate. All too often, however, that love that feels so all-consuming in the early […]
Sex Education in the Church
Communication Marital IntimacyIt’s Time for the Church to Step up to the Plate By Harold & Bette Gillogly Several years ago, HomeLife Magazine published our survey questionnaire on what makes a healthy marriage. Here are the results they published: 33% of the over 2300 respondents stated the primary source for their sex education was “friends and the locker […]
Interpreting Love Languages
Communication Persevering Love Relationship SkillsWhat is your definition of love? What actions do you interpret as love? We all have a “language of love” we have been compiling since early childhood. The ways your parents communicated their love to you….The ways you saw other people communicate love to one another….Even television and movies helped form your “language of love.” […]
Commit to a Time to Talk
Communication Relationship SkillsAuthors: Bob & Yvonne Turnbull To have good communication in marriage is more than just learning effective skills. It’s about making time to communicate. Why is that important? Because communication is the way we connect – feel close to one another – grow together. If we are only having snatches of communication – like – […]
How to Have Joy in your Marriage
Communication Joy & HappinessAuthors: Bill and Bridget Dunk Today’s society would have you believe all you need to be happy is that new car – that new job – the latest and greatest gadget – even a new hair color has the promise of happiness in “television land.” But happiness is NOT what we need – it is […]
Communication that Fuels the Fire
Anger Issues CommunicationCONFLICT. That crippler that tears us apart…that alienates …that polarizes two people so that they can not reach across the chasm they have dug with their own hands. This is the third SEEDS FOR GROWTH dealing with conflict—the greatest cause for marriage failures today. We have been discussing the three basic reasons for conflict: (1) […]