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Forgiveness and Consequences

By Harold and Bette Gillogly Forgiving someone – that is canceling their debt and pardoning their guilt – doesn’t always mean we can save them from the consequences of their offences.  Here’s an example of what we’re talking about: One afternoon, our high school daughter came to us crying.  She had skipped school that day […]

What Does Forgiveness Mean?

By Harold and Bette Gillogly There are two different kinds of forgiveness.  Wow! Who knew?  First, it means “to cancel a debt, to pardon or remit guilt.”  That’s probably what you always thought it meant. Right?  The second kind of forgiveness is “to relinquish resentment against the debtor.”  This second meaning is harder to understand, […]

…So Take Some Friendly Advice

by Harold and Bette Gillogly If you read last week’s blog, (and we certainly hope you did!) then you have figured out whether you are an Inside Thinker or an Outside Thinker.  Both ways of processing information carry strengths as well as some inherent problems. If you are an Outside Thinker, your spouse, family and […]

Not All Silence Is a weapon

by Harold & Bette Gillogly Since we tried last week to rattle the cages of those who use silence as a weapon, though they might not even realize it. It’s only fair that this week we explain how not all silence is a weapon. Some silence is because your spouse simply needs time to think […]

Celebrate Your Coupleness!

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Summer is a terrific time to celebrate being a couple! Life can get so intense, can’t it?  Maybe your life is full of a lot of “gotta’s.”  We’ve gotta earn a living. We’ve gotta take the kids to soccer. We’ve gotta mow the lawn. Perhaps your life is so full of “gotta’s” that you have pushed […]

Is Integrity Worth the Cost?

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Can you imagine a tongue screw becoming a symbol of integrity?  It became so in the city of Antwerp, Holland in the year 1577.  Hans Bret, a young bakery worker, lived in Antwerp with his widowed mother during a time of perilous Protestant persecution in Europe. Hans was an eager […]

Handling Anger in Conflict

by Harold and Bette Gillogly It seems like we’ve been talking about fighting an awfully long time, doesn’t it?   But there is a reason for it.  For far too many Christian couples, Holy Wedlock has become Holy Deadlock.  From our experience, we have to agree with counselors who declare that conflict is the greatest cause […]