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Celebrate Your Coupleness!

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Summer is a terrific time to celebrate being a couple! Life can get so intense, can’t it?  Maybe your life is full of a lot of “gotta’s.”  We’ve gotta earn a living. We’ve gotta take the kids to soccer. We’ve gotta mow the lawn. Perhaps your life is so full of “gotta’s” that you have pushed […]

Is Integrity Worth the Cost?

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Can you imagine a tongue screw becoming a symbol of integrity?  It became so in the city of Antwerp, Holland in the year 1577.  Hans Bret, a young bakery worker, lived in Antwerp with his widowed mother during a time of perilous Protestant persecution in Europe. Hans was an eager […]

Handling Anger in Conflict

by Harold and Bette Gillogly It seems like we’ve been talking about fighting an awfully long time, doesn’t it?   But there is a reason for it.  For far too many Christian couples, Holy Wedlock has become Holy Deadlock.  From our experience, we have to agree with counselors who declare that conflict is the greatest cause […]

Encouraged – Encourager

Have you needed encouragement in the last few months?  Most of us would say “YES.”  Did anyone come alongside and speak a word of encouragement to you or do something for you that “picked you up”?  Hopefully, you can say “YES” to that question as well.  If you said “Yes” to both  questions, did you […]

Becoming Refreshers

“Uh-oh, look who’s coming. Whatever you do, don’t make eye contact.  Quick — say something to me about this flower arrangement.” “Flower arrangement? Oh…uh… What a great flower arrangement! Those florists sure did a bang-up job on it this week.  Don’t you think?” “Yes, indeed.  Why, just look at those colors, the way they’re blended […]

Overcoming Defensiveness Pt. 2

by Harold and Bette Gillogly In a previous Seeds For Growth, we began discussing defensiveness — our instinctive reaction of self-protection.  We seem to go through life feeling we must protect ourselves at any cost. When our mate says something that pushes one of our hot buttons, we lash out in retaliation. Defensiveness is a […]

Overcoming Defensiveness (Pt. 1 of 2)

by Harold and Bette Gillogly It’s instinctive.  We all do it.  Our mates say something perfectly innocent, we take it personally and become defensive. It’s as though we feel we must protect ourselves at any cost.  In fact, that’s what “to defend” means: to protect.  The problem is that protecting has two sides, for when […]

Keep Your Home Fire Burning

by Bob & Yvonne Turnbull As Susan drove home, she wondered what Jeff had up his sleeve. She hadn’t been able to concentrate since receiving his call earlier in the day.  “The kids are staying at your mom’s this weekend.  See if you can get away a little early so you can get a bag […]