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Archive | Relationship Skills

Acquiring skills to help relate well to mates and others.

Handling Anger in Conflict

by Harold and Bette Gillogly It seems like we’ve been talking about fighting an awfully long time, doesn’t it?   But there is a reason for it.  For far too many Christian couples, Holy Wedlock has become Holy Deadlock.  From our experience, we have to agree with counselors who declare that conflict is the greatest cause […]

Encouraged – Encourager

Have you needed encouragement in the last few months?  Most of us would say “YES.”  Did anyone come alongside and speak a word of encouragement to you or do something for you that “picked you up”?  Hopefully, you can say “YES” to that question as well.  If you said “Yes” to both  questions, did you […]

Becoming Refreshers

“Uh-oh, look who’s coming. Whatever you do, don’t make eye contact.  Quick — say something to me about this flower arrangement.” “Flower arrangement? Oh…uh… What a great flower arrangement! Those florists sure did a bang-up job on it this week.  Don’t you think?” “Yes, indeed.  Why, just look at those colors, the way they’re blended […]

Overcoming Defensiveness Pt. 2

by Harold and Bette Gillogly In a previous Seeds For Growth, we began discussing defensiveness — our instinctive reaction of self-protection.  We seem to go through life feeling we must protect ourselves at any cost. When our mate says something that pushes one of our hot buttons, we lash out in retaliation. Defensiveness is a […]

Overcoming Defensiveness (Pt. 1 of 2)

by Harold and Bette Gillogly It’s instinctive.  We all do it.  Our mates say something perfectly innocent, we take it personally and become defensive. It’s as though we feel we must protect ourselves at any cost.  In fact, that’s what “to defend” means: to protect.  The problem is that protecting has two sides, for when […]

Keep Your Home Fire Burning

by Bob & Yvonne Turnbull As Susan drove home, she wondered what Jeff had up his sleeve. She hadn’t been able to concentrate since receiving his call earlier in the day.  “The kids are staying at your mom’s this weekend.  See if you can get away a little early so you can get a bag […]

7 Myths of Cohabitation

by Patrick & Dwaina Six Cohabitation is nothing new.  It happened in Biblical times, too. Remember when Jesus spoke with the woman at the well in John 4:17? When questioned about her husband, she answered that she had no husband. A popular contemporary Bible version renders Jesus’ response as, “That’s nicely put: ‘I have no […]

If We Do Not See Each Other Again

by Bob & Yvonne Turnbull  It was two or three days after the horrendous 9-11 terrorist attack in 2001 when we listened with heavy hearts to a woman being interviewed on TV. Through her tears she sobbed that the last words her husband heard from her were, “I wish I had never married you!”  She had slammed the door […]