by Harold and Bette Gillogly Assumptions will kill your relationships! Assumptions like, “She just said that to hurt me.” “He did that because he doesn’t care what I think.” “We can’t talk about it because she (he) will just get mad and we’ll end up in a fight. So why bother?” It’s not just that […]
Anger Issues
By Harold and Bette Gillogly I was on the phone making an appointment for a medical test I needed. Harold was sitting close enough to hear the conversation. Monday morning, three weeks away, was the earliest appointment available, so I took it. Harold said softly, “It has to be Monday?” I assumed he meant […]
Relationship Skills
by Harold and Bette Gillogly What makes a husband back away and seem distant? What makes him stop listening and maybe even stubbornly dig his heels in deeper? Here’s one possible answer. Not the only one, but one you as his wife need to consider. He might just be sick and tired of you telling […]
Joy & Happiness
by Harold & Bette Gillogly Are you longing for your normal routine? Haven’t seen much of that for months now, have we? Not with this Covid-19 virus still going strong. Have you noticed that family life can really get out of whack without our “normal routines”? We want to offer you 4 “secrets” you […]
Anger Issues
Gloria’s father was abusive and mean. She recalls that as a child, her only emotion toward her father was fear. Today, as a forty-year-old woman, she still has trouble believing God could possibly want good for her. That He can truly be trusted. As a parent, and especially as a father, you teach your children […]
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Part 4: The Flags of the Spiritby Harold and Bette Gillogly Being filled with God’s Spirit is for kids too! They don’t have to wait ‘til they’re 21 to experience the incredible joy of having the Spirit of God fill them up. They can choose to live in Green Flag territory instead of the slums […]
Joy & Happiness
Part 3: The Flags of the Spirit by Harold and Bette Gillogly We promised you in our last blog that with this one we were going to jump into the deep end of the pool! So here we go! Ephesians 5:22-24 is a continuation of Paul’s teaching about how we can tell if we are […]
Joy & Happiness
If you’re smart, when you see a red flag, you immediately stop and find out what it’s all about, because something’s wrong. But when you see a green flag, that tells you you’re on the right track, so you keep going. It makes complete sense that we begin our series on the Flags of the […]
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By Harold and Bette Gillogly Feelings of forgiveness do not happen in a vacuum. We don’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that person who hurt me anymore.” Shazam! Nope. Doesn’t happen that way. Our emotions change as we change our behavior. We can’t simply say. We have […]
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By Harold and Bette Gillogly We talked about the first kind of forgiveness in our last two blogs: “to cancel a debt, to pardon.” Today we’re going to explore the second kind, and we want to warn you, this one is harder than the first. The second kind of forgiveness means “to relinquish resentment against […]