By Harold and Bette Gillogly Feelings of forgiveness do not happen in a vacuum. We don’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that person who hurt me anymore.” Shazam! Nope. Doesn’t happen that way. Our emotions change as we change our behavior. We can’t simply say. We have […]
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God Says, “Forgive Like Me”
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly We talked about the first kind of forgiveness in our last two blogs: “to cancel a debt, to pardon.” Today we’re going to explore the second kind, and we want to warn you, this one is harder than the first. The second kind of forgiveness means “to relinquish resentment against […]
What Does Forgiveness Mean?
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly There are two different kinds of forgiveness. Wow! Who knew? First, it means “to cancel a debt, to pardon or remit guilt.” That’s probably what you always thought it meant. Right? The second kind of forgiveness is “to relinquish resentment against the debtor.” This second meaning is harder to understand, […]
Reconciliation Is Not Just a Nice Thought
Anger Issues ForgivenessBy Harold & Bette Gillogly God commands us to be reconciled to one another. It’s a command, not just a nice goal to think about or wish for. Each of us is commanded to reconcile with both the one who offended us (Matthew 18:15) AND the one we offended (Matthew 523-24). Whoa! Even if your […]
Cure for Bitterness
Anger Issues ForgivenessForgiveness…might just be the most beautiful word in the English language. Since all we wrote about last month was fighting and anger, fuedin’ and fussin,’ it’s about time to talk about how to stop all that and find resolution and reconciliation. And that’s where forgiveness comes in. You see, if we don’t forgive, the acid […]
Evil Attacks Against Marriages and Families
Spiritual Intimacy Tough Timesby Bob & Yvonne Turnbull Yes, there are evil attacks against Christian marriages and families, and the biblical proof text is found in Ephesians 6:12 – “Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil […]
Hard Truths about Anger
Anger IssuesHere are some secrets about anger you probably don’t want to hear. We don’t like them either, but we have to grit our teeth and take them to heart because they’re TRUE. Expressing your anger does not lessen your anger. It usually increases it. “WHAT? I just want to blow off some steam. Get it […]
The Dangers of Anger
Anger IssuesBy Harold & Bette Gillogly Holding onto anger is both dangerous and dumb! Here’s why – You will suffer consequences that will make you miserable. Nobody in their right mind wants to be miserable. DO YOU? Here are some of the ways it’s going to mess you up: It becomes a habit. It will be […]
The Tie That Binds
Persevering Love Spiritual Intimacyby Harold and Bette Gillogly There’s a reason we are so passionate about our book Experiencing Oneness. According to a Focus on the Family study, couples who regularly read the Bible together, pray together and attend church together have a dramatically low divorce rate — only 1 out of @ 1000. Our goal is to […]
While You Have Her
Marital Intimacy Tough Timesby Milt Hughes On April 14th of 1997, Gladys Hughes went to be with her Lord in heaven. She was a dear friend and valued member of our GTO Board of Directors. A few weeks ago, Milt, her husband of 46 years, wrote a letter to the men in his church in Nashville, Tennessee. His […]