It seemed like all we could think about…all we could talk about…was how badly we had been hurt by someone who was supposed to be our pastor, our shepherd. We kept turning over and over in our minds what he had said. What we had said. What we should have said. What zinger we should […]
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God’s Guide for Parents
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsGloria’s father was abusive and mean. She recalls that as a child, her only emotion toward her father was fear. Today, as a forty-year-old woman, she still has trouble believing God could possibly want good for her. That He can truly be trusted. As a parent, and especially as a father, you teach your children […]
Kids Have Flags Too!
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsPart 4: The Flags of the Spirit by Harold and Bette Gillogly Being filled with God’s Spirit is for kids too! They don’t have to wait ‘til they’re 21 to experience the incredible joy of having the Spirit of God fill them up. They can choose to live in Green Flag territory instead of the […]
Forgiveness – The Key to Peace
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly Feelings of forgiveness do not happen in a vacuum. We don’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that person who hurt me anymore.” Shazam! Nope. Doesn’t happen that way. Our emotions change as we change our behavior. We can’t simply say. We have […]
God Says, “Forgive Like Me”
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly We talked about the first kind of forgiveness in our last two blogs: “to cancel a debt, to pardon.” Today we’re going to explore the second kind, and we want to warn you, this one is harder than the first. The second kind of forgiveness means “to relinquish resentment against […]
Forgiveness and Consequences
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly Forgiving someone – that is canceling their debt and pardoning their guilt – doesn’t always mean we can save them from the consequences of their offences. Here’s an example of what we’re talking about: One afternoon, our high school daughter came to us crying. She had skipped school that day […]
What Does Forgiveness Mean?
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly There are two different kinds of forgiveness. Wow! Who knew? First, it means “to cancel a debt, to pardon or remit guilt.” That’s probably what you always thought it meant. Right? The second kind of forgiveness is “to relinquish resentment against the debtor.” This second meaning is harder to understand, […]
How to Handle the Silent Treatment
Anger Issues Communicationby Harold and Bette Gillogly Whether you are the Silence-er or the Silence-ee, when silence is used as a weapon, everybody gets hurt! Norm Wright once said that more marriages today are dying from silence than from violence. He’s right. Silence can be very flammable and feeds the fires of conflict. Do you use silence […]
Why do I Still Feel Hurt Even Though I Chose to Forgive?
Anger Issues Forgivenessby Harold and Bette Gillogly Wait a minute. I already forgave him, so why do I still feel the same old hurt sometimes? Didn’t I do it right? Maybe I need to do it again? Why didn’t God take away the hurt when I forgave the guy? What am I doing wrong? Yeah, we used […]
How to Get Those “Forgivey Feelings”
Anger Issues Forgivenessby Harold and Bette Gillogly So you chose to forgive, but you still don’t have those “forgivey feelings”? You didn’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that guy anymore”? That’s because it simply doesn’t happen that way. Want to know the secret to “feeling forgivey”? Your feelings will […]