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Forgiveness – The Key to Peace

By Harold and Bette Gillogly Feelings of forgiveness do not happen in a vacuum.  We don’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that person who hurt me anymore.” Shazam!  Nope.  Doesn’t happen that way. Our emotions change as we change our behavior.  We can’t simply say.  We have […]

God Says, “Forgive Like Me”

By Harold and Bette Gillogly We talked about the first kind of forgiveness in our last two blogs: “to cancel a debt, to pardon.”  Today we’re going to explore the second kind, and we want to warn you, this one is harder than the first. The second kind of forgiveness means “to relinquish resentment against […]

Forgiveness and Consequences

By Harold and Bette Gillogly Forgiving someone – that is canceling their debt and pardoning their guilt – doesn’t always mean we can save them from the consequences of their offences.  Here’s an example of what we’re talking about: One afternoon, our high school daughter came to us crying.  She had skipped school that day […]

What Does Forgiveness Mean?

By Harold and Bette Gillogly There are two different kinds of forgiveness.  Wow! Who knew?  First, it means “to cancel a debt, to pardon or remit guilt.”  That’s probably what you always thought it meant. Right?  The second kind of forgiveness is “to relinquish resentment against the debtor.”  This second meaning is harder to understand, […]

How to Handle the Silent Treatment

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Whether you are the Silence-er or the Silence-ee, when silence is used as a weapon, everybody gets hurt!  Norm Wright once said that more marriages today are dying from silence than from violence.  He’s right.  Silence can be very flammable and feeds the fires of conflict. Do you use silence […]

How to Get Those “Forgivey Feelings”

by Harold and Bette Gillogly So you chose to forgive, but you still don’t have those “forgivey feelings”?  You didn’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that guy anymore”?  That’s because it simply doesn’t happen that way.  Want to know the secret to “feeling forgivey”?  Your feelings will […]

Oh, Those Little Irritations

By Harold & Bette Gillogly Some days everything bothers me.  Like a pebble in my shoe.  And I’m just irritable… grumpy at everybody.  Can you identify? By evening, I’m left with a wasted day.  I let little irritations enslave me and steal all my joy.  And I was a generous grump, spreading irritableness in my […]

Reconciliation Is Not Just a Nice Thought

By Harold & Bette Gillogly God commands us to be reconciled to one another.  It’s a command, not just a nice goal to think about or wish for.  Each of us is commanded to reconcile with both the one who offended us (Matthew 18:15) AND the one we offended (Matthew 523-24).  Whoa!  Even if your […]

Cure for Bitterness

Forgiveness…might just be the most beautiful word in the English language.  Since all we wrote about last month was fighting and anger, fuedin’ and fussin,’ it’s about time to talk about how to stop all that and find resolution and reconciliation.  And that’s where forgiveness comes in. You see, if we don’t forgive, the acid […]