by Harold and Bette Gillogly It seems like we’ve been talking about fighting an awfully long time, doesn’t it? But there is a reason for it. For far too many Christian couples, Holy Wedlock has become Holy Deadlock. From our experience, we have to agree with counselors who declare that conflict is the greatest cause […]
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Doing What the Father Wants
Anger Issues Persevering Love Spiritual Intimacyby Harold & Bette Gillogly There was a man who owned a vineyard. One morning he told his first son to go work in the vineyard that day. But his son felt lazy and wanted to sleep in, so he replied, “Awww, Dad, I don’t wanna.” A little later, however, he got up and went […]
Forgiveness
Anger Issues Forgiveness Spiritual Intimacyby Patrick & Dwaina Six Several years ago, we faced a difficult and stressful situation. Feelings of hurt, fear, and frustration festered and ultimately turned into anger. As the anger took root, it threatened to change us into bitter, disillusioned people. We had to make a choice. Holding on to the anger meant risking damage […]
Reconcilable Differences
Anger Issues Persevering Love“We seem to be at each other’s throat all the time lately. I yell, he yells. I hurt him. He hurts me. I don’t know what we’re going to do!” We hear this — or something like it — a lot. More now than we use to. CONFLICT. It doesn’t have to cripple us, but […]
The Truth About Anger
Anger IssuesHere are four truths about anger. If we really believe these truths and act upon them, we will take a giant step toward handling our anger. We get angry because real life is not the way we think it OUGHT to be (Psa. 37:8). “She should understand me.” “He shouldn’t treat me this way.” There […]
The High Cost of Divorce
Anger Issues Forgiveness Persevering LoveThe truth is no one ever emerges from divorce unscathed. Everyone involved is permanently harmed. Everyone understands there will be immediate trauma to the divorcing couple, but few realize the lingering emotional and psychological effects. For example, research by Judith Wallerstein with the California Children of Divorce Project shows an especially dismal future for women […]
Ministry vs. Manipulation
Anger Issues Persevering LoveMinistry is our commitment to love in shoe leather. When we minister to our mate, we are focusing on them and their needs. This is not an easy calling. It’s much easier to focus on our own needs and try to manipulate our partner into meeting them. But every Christian spouse has been called to […]
The Faces of Forgiveness (Pt. 2 of 2)
Anger Issues ForgivenessForgiveness. A subject so deep and wide, most of us flounder around in it, struggling just to stay afloat. To be honest, we’re in way over our heads, like ducks that haven’t quite gotten the hang of swimming. To make things worse, the people we rub against every day have a way of ruffling our […]
The Faces of Forgiveness (Pt. 1 of 2)
Anger Issues ForgivenessA few weeks ago, we were talking with a good friend who made a comment that really got us thinking. He said he could not forgive a particular person because that person had not asked him for forgiveness. Are we held back from forgiveness in this way? What are the rules about forgiveness? And who […]
Encourager or Critic
Anger Issues Joy & HappinessWe are commanded by the Holy Spirit to encourage one another and build each other up (1 Thess. 5:11). If you know the Lord, then, hopefully, you take this command pretty seriously. You try your best to encourage those who are DIScouraged. But is that enough? Is there more to this command than meets the […]