By Harold and Bette Gillogly Feelings of forgiveness do not happen in a vacuum. We don’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that person who hurt me anymore.” Shazam! Nope. Doesn’t happen that way. Our emotions change as we change our behavior. We can’t simply say. We have […]
God Says, “Forgive Like Me”
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly We talked about the first kind of forgiveness in our last two blogs: “to cancel a debt, to pardon.” Today we’re going to explore the second kind, and we want to warn you, this one is harder than the first. The second kind of forgiveness means “to relinquish resentment against […]
Forgiveness and Consequences
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly Forgiving someone – that is canceling their debt and pardoning their guilt – doesn’t always mean we can save them from the consequences of their offences. Here’s an example of what we’re talking about: One afternoon, our high school daughter came to us crying. She had skipped school that day […]
What Does Forgiveness Mean?
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly There are two different kinds of forgiveness. Wow! Who knew? First, it means “to cancel a debt, to pardon or remit guilt.” That’s probably what you always thought it meant. Right? The second kind of forgiveness is “to relinquish resentment against the debtor.” This second meaning is harder to understand, […]
Last Two Secret Ingredients for Lasting Love
Marital Intimacy Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly Here we go, the final two ingredients to make your love last forever. Do you remember the first six? They are posted on our website www.marriages.net. Simply click on “Articles” and select from “Recent Posts” in the right hand border. But you are breathlessly waiting to hear the last 2, […]
Two More Things You Gotta Have to Make Your Love Last
Communication Spiritual Intimacyby Harold and Bette Gillogly We’ve talked about the first four ingredients you have to choose to practice in your marriage IF you want it to last. (Ingredients in. Results out.) See those articles in the “Recent Posts” in the right margin. Here are ingredients five and six: Talking Together Choice: So you sat your […]
Two More Ingredients to Make Love Last Forever
Joy & Happiness Persevering Loveby Harold and Bette Gillogly Making love last forever. That’s what you want, isn’t it? And everything that comes with it? So what’s the secret? Putting the right ingredients in gives the right results out! We talked last week about the first two essential ingredients you need to use. So let’s get right into the […]
First Two Ingredients to Make Love Last Forever
Commitment Persevering Loveby Harold and Bette Gillogly Last week we talked about how putting the right ingredients in will give you the right results out. Simple principle, but it works. We promised to let you in on the 8 ingredients that makes love last forever. So here are the first two. The first and most important – […]
8 Ingredients that Make Love Last Forever
Commitment Relationship Skillsby Harold and Bette Gillogly Sugar and salt look a lot alike, don’t they? But what happens if you substitute a cup of salt to your cake recipe in place of sugar? Your cake is a flop! Not even the dog will eat it! Here’s the simple truth. Life is like cake. You put the […]
One Last Piece of Advice for All You Thinkers
Communication Relationship Skillsby Harold and Bette Gillogly Before we leave the subject of Inside vs. Outside Thinkers, we need to offer one more piece of advice. You may be wondering why we have spent so much time on this one subject. Here’s why: through our many years of teaching and counseling couples, we have discovered that most […]