by Harold and Bette Gillogly It’s instinctive. We all do it. Our mates say something perfectly innocent, we take it personally and become defensive. It’s as though we feel we must protect ourselves at any cost. In fact, that’s what “to defend” means: to protect. The problem is that protecting has two sides, for when […]
Thinking Pitfalls
Martin Luther’s famous words as he stood before Emperor Charles V of the Holy Roman Empire – “Here I stand. I can do no other” – echo loudly for every Christian now that the US Supreme Court has ruled that homosexual marriage is a civil right. The Emperor expected…demanded…that Luther recant his belief that only […]
Marital Intimacy
by Bob & Yvonne Turnbull As Susan drove home, she wondered what Jeff had up his sleeve. She hadn’t been able to concentrate since receiving his call earlier in the day. “The kids are staying at your mom’s this weekend. See if you can get away a little early so you can get a bag […]
Persevering Love
When one is in the initial stages of grief, the natural tendency is to take flight—flight from people and flight from God—pushing both away from you. After April 28, 1992, when Riverside County made their decision against our use of Spring Meadows, Idyllwild, California, we struggled with that tendency. We entered a grieving process—just as […]
Commitment
by Bob & Yvonne Turnbull Have you noticed that too much hurry and speed of life can put a serious crimp in a marriage? We often think we will have time for one another when life slows down. Interesting how that time never seems to arrive. Before we know it, we have drifted apart in […]
Thinking Pitfalls
by Harold and Bette Gillogly I’m stopped at a red light. I glance in the rear view mirror. A man in a dark blue uniform is getting out of the white car behind me and walking up to my window. My heart drops into my stomach as I roll down the glass. The man in […]
Decision Making
by Patrick & Dwaina Six Cohabitation is nothing new. It happened in Biblical times, too. Remember when Jesus spoke with the woman at the well in John 4:17? When questioned about her husband, she answered that she had no husband. A popular contemporary Bible version renders Jesus’ response as, “That’s nicely put: ‘I have no […]
Anger Issues
“We seem to be at each other’s throat all the time lately. I yell, he yells. I hurt him. He hurts me. I don’t know what we’re going to do!” We hear this — or something like it — a lot. More now than we use to. CONFLICT. It doesn’t have to cripple us, but […]
Joy & Happiness
by Bob & Yvonne Turnbull It was two or three days after the horrendous 9-11 terrorist attack in 2001 when we listened with heavy hearts to a woman being interviewed on TV. Through her tears she sobbed that the last words her husband heard from her were, “I wish I had never married you!” She had slammed the door […]
Communication
It’s Time for the Church to Step up to the Plate By Harold & Bette Gillogly Several years ago, HomeLife Magazine published our survey questionnaire on what makes a healthy marriage. Here are the results they published: 33% of the over 2300 respondents stated the primary source for their sex education was “friends and the locker […]