No, we’re not talking about kicking your spouse out. We’re talking about kicking out a couple of habits you may have developed in your marriage relationship. If you are going to experience joy in your sexual relationship, these two habits have gotta go! Demanding Has Gotta Go: 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 is an often misunderstood Scripture. […]
Anger Issues
The truth is no one ever emerges from divorce unscathed. Everyone involved is permanently harmed. Everyone understands there will be immediate trauma to the divorcing couple, but few realize the lingering emotional and psychological effects. For example, research by Judith Wallerstein with the California Children of Divorce Project shows an especially dismal future for women […]
Anger Issues
by Harold and Bette Gillogly Ministry is our commitment to love in shoe leather. When we minister to our mate, we are focusing on them and their needs. This is not an easy calling. It’s much easier to focus on our own needs and try to manipulate our partner into meeting them. But every Christian spouse […]
Thinking Pitfalls
Look out! Danger! You’ve got an enemy who is ready to pounce like a lion on the hunt. And you look mighty tasty to him. Scripture says your enemy wants to devour you. To eat you up! (1 Peter 5:8) Does he want to nibble on your nose? Does he want to nibble on your […]
Anger Issues
Forgiveness. A subject so deep and wide, most of us flounder around in it, struggling just to stay afloat. To be honest, we’re in way over our heads, like ducks that haven’t quite gotten the hang of swimming. To make things worse, the people we rub against every day have a way of ruffling our […]
Anger Issues
A few weeks ago, we were talking with a good friend who made a comment that really got us thinking. He said he could not forgive a particular person because that person had not asked him for forgiveness. Are we held back from forgiveness in this way? What are the rules about forgiveness? And who […]
Decision Making
To love is a COMMAND. During our engagement, we heard a speaker say that love is “a maximum of evaluation and a minimum of emotion.” We, like any other engaged couple, didn’t believe that for a minute. We had a maximum of emotion and a minimum of evaluation. But after we were married for awhile, […]
Joy & Happiness
by Harold and Bette Gillogly In the last two Seeds we have talked about how we can rejoice with our mates, celebrating our love and oneness. By using C-E-L-E-B-R-A-T-I-N-G as an acrostic, we have discussed specific, practical ways to fill our marriages full of joy. The first eights letters of CELEBRATING have been used, so […]
Joy & Happiness
by Harold and Bette Gillogly Has there been a celebration at your house since the last SEEDS FOR GROWTH? A celebration of your love for one another? We hope so. It is our prayer for every couple to make “rejoicing” the key characteristic of their marriage? We hope you have made a decision to put […]
Joy & Happiness
by Harold and Bette Gillogly Throughout Scripture, there is a distinct current of celebration, especially as God reveals His intention in creating marriage. When God fashioned Eve and brought her to Adam — they celebrated (Genesis 2:22-25). When Ruth and Boaz were finally united, there was jubilation (Ruth 4:14). Solomon and his Shulamite wife rejoiced […]