By Harold and Bette Gillogly Feelings of forgiveness do not happen in a vacuum. We don’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that person who hurt me anymore.” Shazam! Nope. Doesn’t happen that way. Our emotions change as we change our behavior. We can’t simply say. We have […]
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God Says, “Forgive Like Me”
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly We talked about the first kind of forgiveness in our last two blogs: “to cancel a debt, to pardon.” Today we’re going to explore the second kind, and we want to warn you, this one is harder than the first. The second kind of forgiveness means “to relinquish resentment against […]
Forgiveness and Consequences
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly Forgiving someone – that is canceling their debt and pardoning their guilt – doesn’t always mean we can save them from the consequences of their offences. Here’s an example of what we’re talking about: One afternoon, our high school daughter came to us crying. She had skipped school that day […]
What Does Forgiveness Mean?
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly There are two different kinds of forgiveness. Wow! Who knew? First, it means “to cancel a debt, to pardon or remit guilt.” That’s probably what you always thought it meant. Right? The second kind of forgiveness is “to relinquish resentment against the debtor.” This second meaning is harder to understand, […]
Well What Did You Expect (Pt. 1 of 2)
Persevering Love Thinking Pitfallsby Harold & Bette Gillogly We all came into marriage with expectations — some realistic, some not so realistic. “My wife ought to be like Carol Brady.” “My husband ought to be like Ozzie Nelson.” “And my children ought to be like Beaver Cleaver.” But soon after the vows are said, reality sets in. REALITY […]
Freedom to Fail
Joy & Happiness Persevering Love Thinking Pitfallsby Harold & Bette Gillogly The teacher was blunt, her words cruel. “He has too many learning disabilities. It’s a waste of time for him to even attend school here.” Later, Ralph Showers overheard his Grandmother soothing his parents with this great declaration. “I don’t know what people think of Ralph. But I know what […]
Have You Burned Your Ships?
Decision Making Persevering LoveWe heard an interesting story recently. When the Spanish explorer Cortes lead his expedition into Mexico to conquer the Aztec nation, he was concerned about the fear and reticence of his soldiers to fight the numerous and fierce Aztecs. So he did something very smart and very decisive. He gathered his men on the shore […]