By Harold and Bette Gillogly Feelings of forgiveness do not happen in a vacuum. We don’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that person who hurt me anymore.” Shazam! Nope. Doesn’t happen that way. Our emotions change as we change our behavior. We can’t simply say. We have […]
Tag Archives: conflict
God Says, “Forgive Like Me”
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly We talked about the first kind of forgiveness in our last two blogs: “to cancel a debt, to pardon.” Today we’re going to explore the second kind, and we want to warn you, this one is harder than the first. The second kind of forgiveness means “to relinquish resentment against […]
Forgiveness and Consequences
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly Forgiving someone – that is canceling their debt and pardoning their guilt – doesn’t always mean we can save them from the consequences of their offences. Here’s an example of what we’re talking about: One afternoon, our high school daughter came to us crying. She had skipped school that day […]
What Does Forgiveness Mean?
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly There are two different kinds of forgiveness. Wow! Who knew? First, it means “to cancel a debt, to pardon or remit guilt.” That’s probably what you always thought it meant. Right? The second kind of forgiveness is “to relinquish resentment against the debtor.” This second meaning is harder to understand, […]
Handling Anger in Conflict
Anger Issues Relationship Skillsby Harold and Bette Gillogly It seems like we’ve been talking about fighting an awfully long time, doesn’t it? But there is a reason for it. For far too many Christian couples, Holy Wedlock has become Holy Deadlock. From our experience, we have to agree with counselors who declare that conflict is the greatest cause […]
Here We Stand
Thinking Pitfalls Tough TimesMartin Luther’s famous words as he stood before Emperor Charles V of the Holy Roman Empire – “Here I stand. I can do no other” – echo loudly for every Christian now that the US Supreme Court has ruled that homosexual marriage is a civil right. The Emperor expected…demanded…that Luther recant his belief that only […]
Reconcilable Differences
Anger Issues Persevering Love“We seem to be at each other’s throat all the time lately. I yell, he yells. I hurt him. He hurts me. I don’t know what we’re going to do!” We hear this — or something like it — a lot. More now than we use to. CONFLICT. It doesn’t have to cripple us, but […]
Communication that Fuels the Fire
Anger Issues CommunicationCONFLICT. That crippler that tears us apart…that alienates …that polarizes two people so that they can not reach across the chasm they have dug with their own hands. This is the third SEEDS FOR GROWTH dealing with conflict—the greatest cause for marriage failures today. We have been discussing the three basic reasons for conflict: (1) […]
Power Struggles: A Sure-Fire Way to Lose
Anger IssuesIn our last SEEDS FOR GROWTH, we began discussing Conflict…that crippler that terrifies and tears us apart. You know what we’re talking about, don’t you? You probably have some old, unworkable habits you just naturally fall into when anger and conflict arise in your marriage and family relationships. Right? Yeah, we all do. We walk […]