by Harold and Bette Gillogly We’ve talked about the first four ingredients you have to choose to practice in your marriage IF you want it to last. (Ingredients in. Results out.) See those articles in the “Recent Posts” in the right margin. Here are ingredients five and six: Talking Together Choice: So you sat your […]
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Overcoming Defensiveness (Pt. 1 of 2)
Relationship Skills Thinking Pitfallsby Harold and Bette Gillogly It’s instinctive. We all do it. Our mates say something perfectly innocent, we take it personally and become defensive. It’s as though we feel we must protect ourselves at any cost. In fact, that’s what “to defend” means: to protect. The problem is that protecting has two sides, for when […]
Communication that Fuels the Fire
Anger Issues CommunicationCONFLICT. That crippler that tears us apart…that alienates …that polarizes two people so that they can not reach across the chasm they have dug with their own hands. This is the third SEEDS FOR GROWTH dealing with conflict—the greatest cause for marriage failures today. We have been discussing the three basic reasons for conflict: (1) […]