by Harold and Bette Gillogly ANGER – Turn on the news. Venture into the caustic world of social media. It’s everywhere! People are angry…some for very good reasons. And some for very bad reasons. Anger is a tricky emotion, that’s why the Scriptures say a lot about it. Take a look at Ephesians 4:26 through 5:2 and […]
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How to Wallow the Right Way
Anger Issues Thinking PitfallsIt seemed like all we could think about…all we could talk about…was how badly we had been hurt by someone who was supposed to be our pastor, our shepherd. We kept turning over and over in our minds what he had said. What we had said. What we should have said. What zinger we should […]
Forgiveness – The Key to Peace
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly Feelings of forgiveness do not happen in a vacuum. We don’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that person who hurt me anymore.” Shazam! Nope. Doesn’t happen that way. Our emotions change as we change our behavior. We can’t simply say. We have […]
God Says, “Forgive Like Me”
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly We talked about the first kind of forgiveness in our last two blogs: “to cancel a debt, to pardon.” Today we’re going to explore the second kind, and we want to warn you, this one is harder than the first. The second kind of forgiveness means “to relinquish resentment against […]
Forgiveness and Consequences
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly Forgiving someone – that is canceling their debt and pardoning their guilt – doesn’t always mean we can save them from the consequences of their offences. Here’s an example of what we’re talking about: One afternoon, our high school daughter came to us crying. She had skipped school that day […]
What Does Forgiveness Mean?
Anger Issues Relationship SkillsBy Harold and Bette Gillogly There are two different kinds of forgiveness. Wow! Who knew? First, it means “to cancel a debt, to pardon or remit guilt.” That’s probably what you always thought it meant. Right? The second kind of forgiveness is “to relinquish resentment against the debtor.” This second meaning is harder to understand, […]
How to Get Those “Forgivey Feelings”
Anger Issues Forgivenessby Harold and Bette Gillogly So you chose to forgive, but you still don’t have those “forgivey feelings”? You didn’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that guy anymore”? That’s because it simply doesn’t happen that way. Want to know the secret to “feeling forgivey”? Your feelings will […]
Oh, Those Little Irritations
Anger Issues ForgivenessBy Harold & Bette Gillogly Some days everything bothers me. Like a pebble in my shoe. And I’m just irritable… grumpy at everybody. Can you identify? By evening, I’m left with a wasted day. I let little irritations enslave me and steal all my joy. And I was a generous grump, spreading irritableness in my […]
Unmet Expectations and Anger
Anger Issuesby Harold & Bette Gillogly 100% of your anger comes from your unmet expectations. That’s hard to believe, isn’t it? OK, let’s unpack it a little bit so we can understand how this impacts everyone us. Maybe you’re a wife who is really angry at her husband. He doesn’t pick up after himself. Leaves his […]
Handling Anger in Conflict
Anger Issues Relationship Skillsby Harold and Bette Gillogly It seems like we’ve been talking about fighting an awfully long time, doesn’t it? But there is a reason for it. For far too many Christian couples, Holy Wedlock has become Holy Deadlock. From our experience, we have to agree with counselors who declare that conflict is the greatest cause […]