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…So Take Some Friendly Advice

by Harold and Bette Gillogly If you read last week’s blog, (and we certainly hope you did!) then you have figured out whether you are an Inside Thinker or an Outside Thinker.  Both ways of processing information carry strengths as well as some inherent problems. If you are an Outside Thinker, your spouse, family and […]

Not All Silence Is a weapon

by Harold & Bette Gillogly Since we tried last week to rattle the cages of those who use silence as a weapon, though they might not even realize it. It’s only fair that this week we explain how not all silence is a weapon. Some silence is because your spouse simply needs time to think […]

How to Handle the Silent Treatment

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Whether you are the Silence-er or the Silence-ee, when silence is used as a weapon, everybody gets hurt!  Norm Wright once said that more marriages today are dying from silence than from violence.  He’s right.  Silence can be very flammable and feeds the fires of conflict. Do you use silence […]

Pride – the Deadliest of Sins

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Ever wonder why “deadly sins” are called “deadly sins”?  It must be because they are …well …deadly. Capable of destroying you.  Take for instance, PRIDE.  It might just be the deadliest of all sins. Why do you think that is? In Proverbs 6:16-19, God lists 7 things He hates, and […]

How to Get Those “Forgivey Feelings”

by Harold and Bette Gillogly So you chose to forgive, but you still don’t have those “forgivey feelings”?  You didn’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m not going to feel resentment toward that guy anymore”?  That’s because it simply doesn’t happen that way.  Want to know the secret to “feeling forgivey”?  Your feelings will […]

Oh, Those Little Irritations

By Harold & Bette Gillogly Some days everything bothers me.  Like a pebble in my shoe.  And I’m just irritable… grumpy at everybody.  Can you identify? By evening, I’m left with a wasted day.  I let little irritations enslave me and steal all my joy.  And I was a generous grump, spreading irritableness in my […]

Reconciliation Is Not Just a Nice Thought

By Harold & Bette Gillogly God commands us to be reconciled to one another.  It’s a command, not just a nice goal to think about or wish for.  Each of us is commanded to reconcile with both the one who offended us (Matthew 18:15) AND the one we offended (Matthew 523-24).  Whoa!  Even if your […]

Cure for Bitterness

Forgiveness…might just be the most beautiful word in the English language.  Since all we wrote about last month was fighting and anger, fuedin’ and fussin,’ it’s about time to talk about how to stop all that and find resolution and reconciliation.  And that’s where forgiveness comes in. You see, if we don’t forgive, the acid […]

Evil Attacks Against Marriages and Families

by Bob & Yvonne Turnbull Yes, there are evil attacks against Christian marriages and families, and the biblical proof text is found in Ephesians 6:12 – “Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil […]