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The High Cost of Divorce

The truth is no one ever emerges from divorce unscathed.  Everyone involved is permanently harmed. Everyone understands there will be immediate trauma to the divorcing couple, but few realize the lingering emotional and psychological effects. For example, research by Judith Wallerstein with the California Children of Divorce Project shows an especially dismal future for women […]

Ministry vs. Manipulation

Ministry is our commitment to love in shoe leather.  When we minister to our mate, we are focusing on them and their needs.  This is not an easy calling.  It’s much easier to focus on our own needs and try to manipulate our partner into meeting them.  But every Christian spouse has been called to […]

The Battle for the Mind

Look out!  Danger!  You’ve got an enemy who is ready to pounce like a lion on the hunt.  And you look mighty tasty to him.  Scripture says your enemy wants to devour you.  To eat you up!  (1 Peter 5:8) Does he want to nibble on your nose?  Does he want to nibble on your […]

The Faces of Forgiveness (Pt. 2 of 2)

Forgiveness.  A subject so deep and wide, most of us flounder around in it, struggling just to stay afloat.  To be honest, we’re in way over our heads, like ducks that haven’t quite gotten the hang of swimming.  To make things worse, the people we rub against every day have a way of ruffling our […]

The Faces of Forgiveness (Pt. 1 of 2)

A few weeks ago, we were talking with a good friend who made a comment that really got us thinking.  He said he could not forgive a particular person because that person had not asked him for forgiveness.  Are we held back from forgiveness in this way?  What are the rules about forgiveness?  And who […]

Love is a Decision

To love is a COMMAND.  During our engagement, we heard a speaker say that love is “a maximum of evaluation and a minimum of emotion.”  We, like any other engaged couple, didn’t believe that for a minute.  We had a maximum of emotion and a minimum of evaluation.  But after we were married for awhile, […]

Couples Rejoice (Pt. 3 of 3)

by Harold and Bette Gillogly In the last two Seeds we have talked about how we can rejoice with our mates, celebrating our love and oneness.  By using C-E-L-E-B-R-A-T-I-N-G as an acrostic, we have discussed specific, practical ways to fill our marriages full of joy.  The first eights letters of  CELEBRATING have been used, so […]

Couples Rejoice (Pt. 2 of 3)

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Has there been a celebration at your house since the last SEEDS FOR GROWTH?  A celebration of your love for one another?  We hope so.  It is our prayer for every couple to make “rejoicing” the key characteristic of their marriage?  We hope you have made a decision to put […]

Couples Rejoice (Pt. 1 of 3)

by Harold and Bette Gillogly Throughout Scripture, there is a distinct current of celebration, especially as God reveals His intention in creating marriage.  When God fashioned Eve and brought her to Adam — they celebrated (Genesis 2:22-25).  When Ruth and Boaz were finally united, there was jubilation (Ruth 4:14).  Solomon and his Shulamite wife rejoiced […]

Hanging on Through Tough Times

As you walk along the road in your journey toward  spiritual intimacy, you are going to come across some ruts, chuck holes and boulders in your path.  The enemy is going to make quite sure you encounter a lot of rough places.  And why shouldn’t he?  Satan’s agenda is to make you give up…to quit…not […]